I kind of think that I should record down somewhere how I felt about some important issues in my life before I forget or that I have moved on to other bigger/ more important priorities in life.
1) Getting Married
Since young I always thought of like fairy tale romance and then getting married to a guy I really like then have a family and all. Then as I grow older, have relationships with a few guys then realise that getting married is not as easy as I thought it would be or as smooth a process. My first bf disappeared 3 times and then never came back. The second one was so possessive I could not stand him. If I could, I would probably be planning for my wedding with him. The next one I wouldn't want to say more cos I wouldn't even regard that as a relationship. It's all too absurd and looking back, I can only say I was really crazy. The next one is a tricky one. It happened at a time where I somehow felt like settling down but yet could not get any committment from him to do so.
Then I got to speak with my Uni prof Dr Yang Kun-Lin who somehow pointed out a point which I kind of missed it. Actually he and I... probably still wants to play. None of us are really serious in settling down. Actually I cannot imagine myself changing diapers when I still could go Japan, or China or US or Europe to travel and experience life in different parts of the world. I still haven't seen enough, done enough... so frankly speaking, do I really really want to get married? I think the thing is I only want to have someone with me... a husband I can call my own and my own little family. Yet I still want the freedom to go out and play, go overseas, go shopping and spend money.
For him, he still has his work ambitions. He wants to go overseas to work for a few years then come back to be a manager or something. I think he has the capability to do it. However, that would mean that settling down is not something he would consider. Or maybe its me. He doesn't want to settle down with ME. Maybe so, I don't know. But all in all, actually seriously speaking I am not ready to settle down. So before I settle my problem, I cannot really talk about his.
One point Dr Yang brought out was that the guy would only introduce the gf to his family when he wants to settle down. That would then strongly suggest that he doesn't want to settle down with me. I seriously think so. And he also says that after the couple has done the whatever, the girl will find it difficult to leave the guy... so a bad relationship just drags on. Life is difficult, I know. But got to bear with it! The worst things in life are often the best things in life.
2) Money
I think if I didn't spend like I did, I would be VERY rich. I would have much more savings that WS. He thinks he's very rich btw, having some tens of thousands. If I have saved most of my money buying all the other stuff which I don't really need (but want badly at certain point of my life), I think I would have much much much more savings than he did.
I think I don't appreciate money a lot. Recently really kind of woke up and want to restrain myself. Reason? I think I overspent. I suppose I don't have enough money in my bank to pay off the credit card debts and have to use my savings. This is really BAD! So I'm curbing myself... not to spend any money using cards until the next card cycle. Only so then I can accumulate cash.
I am too much of a spendthrift and when I see something I like, I always want to own it. Sometimes I get too carried away I just spend. And if I don't keep track, then I lose control and overspend like last month. I must keep this lesson in mind and stop myself from impulse buys or branded stuff buys. I MUST DO IT! and I MUST SUCCEED!
3) Work
I have been working for about 2 years already. Still in the same company. Still whining about not having the opportunity to go overseas and work. Still not moving on even though I know this company can't give me the opportunity. Still staying because the people here are nice and give me other opportunities. The overseas one I cannot blame, because its a local company.
4) Opening my own company
Every young person I talked to says they want to own their own company... after working for a few years. I don't know if this is the current trend now... but everyone doesn't want to work for someone. If everyone went to open a company, then no one will have the money to go buy the things u sell, dud. Then there will be no companies to make the things you want to sell and no one to work for you. Hahahah... In every 100 people who says they want to open own company, only maybe 3 went to open and maybe none succeeds. In every 1000 people, maybe one succeeds.
I belong to the 1000, I also want to open my own company. But an online one. I still want to hold a job... in case anything happens to the company, I still got a job to keep me away from hunger. Online shop also means I do not need to rent a space, hire workers etc. This plan really requires some thinking and of course what I can sell. Doing something I am interested in and something that can make money. I am not sure if I will be one of the 999 who just say and not do anything. If I am serious enough, I think I definitely have to do something.
5) Investment
I just started to learn more about investments with WS. We have been attending classes or free seminars to learn more... see what we can buy etc. I think I want to buy index funds... or in SG, we call it ETFs. Have put aside $3000 to do this. Since its big money, I need to make sure that I am fully ready. I really have an urge to buy NOW!!! And hold it for long term growth. I hope that the next time I come back to re-visit this issue, my wealth would have grown. : )
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